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BISEXUALITY - episode 3-19
An informal survey of my heterosexual girlfriends' sexual fantasies led me to think that women are inherently bisexual in nature. "Yes, I've often thought about touching, caressing and licking another woman's breasts," my friend Stacia said. "Women are just so soft and luscious." I thought of the first time I saw a Men's Penthouse magazine, how horny I became - I practically had to run to the bathroom to get off. And yet, I never would have identified as "bisexual" in nature. Men turned me on incredibly, so much so that I also got really hot by seeing the way they saw women. I stared at women's bodies through their eyes and became a voyeur into their masturbatory fantasy life. I sexualized myself the way they sexualized me and was aroused by the hot little vixen I became. And so as I came to do this story, I wondered if women were more inclined to sexualize each other simply because women are seen as this culture's erotic object. I mean if we were surrounded by media images of gorgeous young men in sexualized positions together, would homosexuality be part of collective fantasy life? Kinsey believed that humankind was inherently bisexual in nature and that restrictive sexual mores alone prevented us from acting upon our bisexuality. But the story shows that the most important thing is to have the freedom to be able to self-identify the way we want to. Sexual desire and sexual orientation is multi-dimensional, it is complex, and, as Carol Queen says, "it flows." Bisexuality challenges us to step out of our conventional sexual definitions and binary categories of gay/straight, normal/abnormal. Hopefully, in the future, bisexuality will be commonly seen as one of the many shades of sexual orientation in the complex and colourful fabric of life. Michelle Melles
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